This One is About Love.

I. Growth

A person isn't who they are during the last conversation you had with them - they're who they've been throughout your whole relationship. –Rilke

There are always addictions, affections and obsessions that we simply cannot get enough of. While you are indulging, not being able to get enough extends the enjoyment. Consequently, the acknowledgement that you really won’t ever get enough is quite painful.  This is what I realized.

When you are suffering from a withdrawal, it is hard to feel anything aside from the discomfort of the unfulfilled enjoyment you are craving. The burning, aching, heart wrenching desire for missed affections find their way to you when you are reminded of what really makes you happy.

If you change your perception on this discomfort it quickly becomes a tool of success and growth. Without discomfort there is no growth, there is no change; you would not feel the need to transform or mature if you were completely comfortable (why take the risk of potentially becoming uncomfortable?).

Apply this to love.

Physical absence of love is uncomfortable but can lead to the growth of intangible aspects of relationships that often are ignored. I guess it’s the whole “you don’t know what you have until it is gone” situation put to use in a positive way. Constructive growth is possible in all aspects of life… Love included.

II. Faith and Courage

Believe that with your feelings and your work you are taking part in the greatest; the more strongly you cultivate this belief, the more will reality and the world go forth from it. -Rilke

Love doesn’t fall from the sky; it is the product of hard work (easy-hard work if there is such a thing). The design of a relationship is built over any amount of time with a variety of material. Be proud of the effort you supply and have enough faith in what you feel to defend external disapproval. When you are being brave enough to put yourself out there, you will attract criticism; this is because you are going against the grain and people will often disagree with unfamiliar actions. It is their own discomfort and negative experiences that lead them to criticize the hard work and beliefs of others. Stand your ground and defend your love, but most importantly, believe in it.

III. Adjust

Sand is always shifting; footprints made one day will be gone the next leaving a seamless mass of beautiful untouched landscapes. By adjusting itself it transforms into something more striking than before. The same goes with success. To be successful you have to adjust to situations you find yourself in; this easily applies to love. By being able to make adjustments and adapting, you can turn any seemingly difficult situation into a pathway to the success of love.

For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation. – Rilke